“For 16 years,” she said, “we had battled over his long and erratic working hours, and I learned from the course to accept what he had to do and to value the time we had together instead of complajning that there wasn't more of it.”īarbara Terry, who has an M.A. Fascinating Womanhood made me realize I should build him up instead.”Ĭarolyn Carruthers, who came from Grosse Pointe, Mich., to Pasadena, Calif., where her husband, William, is a television producer, said she had learned to stop complaining that she and her husband did not have more time together. Gale Bren, who before her marriage was a reporter for The Charlotte (N.C.) News and whose husband, Don, is an insurance agent in Columbus, Ohio, said, “I'd always thought I should help my husband keep his feet on the ground by pointing out his failings. In her own case, she said that after she had learned to give her husband “his rightful authority and let him have the final say, he became much more thoughtful he does the dishes now, which he never would have done before.” Green said, “The surprising thing is that once women start to be kinder and nicer to their husbands, the men seem to come along.” “It tells a woman, ‘We know your husband isn't perfect and he isn't going to he, so accept him and do what you can to improve the marriage.’” Green, who before her marriage was a buyer for a department store and had the usual career woman's independence, acknowledged that it was not always easy to take that first step recommended by Fascinating Womanhood (and Total Woman). Green, who is married to Johnny Green, the composer, conductor and musician. “Men have a lot of pride and won't take the first step,” said Mrs. Many who have taken such courses, such as Bonnie Green of Beverly Hills, Calif., have come to believe that women must take the initiative. After the $15 fee for the first Total Woman, there is no charge for repeats. Quite a number of women have taken them more than once. Yet almost 400,000 women have taken the Fascinating Womanhood course, which recently raised its fee from $15 to $30, and more than 15,000 have taken the Total Woman. To follow the teachings of either course means certain loss of independence and entails a good deal of humility.
The course teaches that men are amused and fascinated by these performances because of “the contrast to their own superior strength and masculine ability.” It also advocates childlike behavior - sauciness, tossing of the head, stomping of the foot-to get one's way. “My husband thinks it's nice,” she said.įascinating Womanhood talks seriously about domestic goddesses, angelic traits, women on pedestals and is even more involved with the spiritual. an upper‐income suburb of Detroit, said she was glad she had learned to perfume the‐ bedsheets.
It also teaches that the way to gain “peace, pardon, purpose and power” is “to plug yourself into the One, the Only One” (God) and it describes things spiritual in such a way that Joanne Parks, who lives north of Miami, said after taking the course that “God is the great romantic, you know.”īut the sybaritic is given equal time and Jo Ann Colliver of Birmingham, Mich. Total Woman goes about this by stressing the four A's that it considers basic in dealing with husbands: accept, admire, adapt and appreciate.
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